How to write a love letter to yourself

Updated: Nov 23, 2020

"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection" - Buddha.

Valentine Day is touted as "The day for lovers"

But what about the other 364 days? And what about those who are single, widowed, separated, divorced, recovering from a breakup, or any other version of aloneness.

Are they not also deserving of love and affection?

Even if you're in a relationship, it's just as important to practice self-love - after all, you can't pour from an empty cup.

The first time I wrote myself a love letter, I struggled.

That's because just like everyone else, it's easier to say what you don't like about yourself/what you don't want - than to identify what you love and cherish about yourself.

Here below, are 6 steps to write the best love letter ever to YOU.

“To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness” - Robert Morley

♥️ Get some pretty paper and a pen:

This letter is to be handwritten- to give you a lot more time to think about what you want to say. ♥️ Start with a name or phrase that will make you smile.

This sets the tone for what comes after. ♥️Recall a memory that was pivotal. Go into detail, and relive the sights, sounds, and even the smells of the event.

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Sometimes you need to remember how awesome you are

♥️ Use words of encouragement.

Talk to yourself about your challenges as well as your fears. Embrace yourself with kindness and empathy.

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”
Sharon Salzberg

♥️ Remind yourself that whatever you're going through is transitory.

No matter your current circumstances love and joy is still there for you. Compliment yourself on how far you've come and how resilient you are.

♥️ Say words of affirmation and love to yourself.

You've made it this far and it's not over until you win. Give yourself permission to know you are enough, that you matter, and that you're capable of doing amazing things.

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Keep this in mind- you don't have to share this letter with anyone if you don't want to

Place it somewhere you can see it; like in a pretty box where you can read it on the days when you need to remember how awesome you are!!!!

Try it out!!! it may be one of the best things you can do for yourself this year.

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